{"id":3520,"date":"2022-07-11T15:00:45","date_gmt":"2022-07-11T19:00:45","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/archangeladvancement.com\/?p=3520"},"modified":"2022-07-09T10:21:04","modified_gmt":"2022-07-09T14:21:04","slug":"you-schmooze-you-lose","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/archangeladvancement.com\/?p=3520","title":{"rendered":"You Schmooze, You Lose"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>This could be more of a Development article than a &#8220;Marketing Matter,&#8221; but since Marketing is the process that eventually leads to Development, it fits.<\/p>\n<p>When I returned to development 19 years ago after being out of the field for about 13 years and in commercial sales for 6 years, I realized a couple of things: marketing and education are very similar, and sales and development are very similar. That relationship gave me a better understanding of why for-profit businesses have &#8220;Sales and Marketing&#8221; Directors, and non- and not-for profit businesses have &#8220;Marketing and Development&#8221; Directors. In business, &#8220;Sales&#8221; can be considered to be more important than &#8220;Marketing,&#8221; since marketing costs money, while sales generates money for the business. For us non-profit educators, &#8220;Marketing&#8221; knowledge is <em>a priori<\/em> to Development.<\/p>\n<p>Think about it&#8230;if we know we&#8217;re in need of a product, especially in our day and age, we pretty much know where we can go and get it, and if we don&#8217;t, we can always search for it on the Web.\u00a0 But if we simply ask people to donate to our school, no matter how wonderful we know it is, &#8220;No&#8221; is the most common response we receive.<\/p>\n<p>Of course, the answer isn&#8217;t a hard &#8220;no;&#8221; it&#8217;s a euphemism, such as &#8220;I&#8217;m sorry, but not at this time,&#8221; &#8220;I really can&#8217;t afford anything right now,&#8221; or, &#8220;Perhaps in a couple of months.&#8221;\u00a0 Think about the Phon-a-thon stage of an annual appeal. There was probably a direct mail piece generated, several reminder postcards, perhaps some supportive advertising, and then, and only then, a voice making the ask via telephone.\u00a0 A direct appeal phone call from out of the blue with out any kind of preparation is akin to those telemarketers or robocalls that make your home phone ring when you&#8217;re sitting down to dinner because you&#8217;re probably at home at that time.<\/p>\n<p>Business also lives by the adage that &#8220;a satisfied customer&#8221; is a business&#8217; &#8220;best advertisement,&#8221; also reinforcing the mindset that sales can produce better marketing results.<\/p>\n<p>So what does all this have to do with the term, &#8220;Schmoozing?&#8221; The word &#8220;schmooze&#8221; is one of a series of words which came into the English language from Yiddish. Merriam-Webster offers this definition:<\/p>\n<blockquote><p><span class=\"intro-colon\">T<\/span>o converse informally <span class=\"intro-colon\">:<\/span>\u00a0 chat; <em>also<\/em><span class=\"intro-colon\">:<\/span>\u00a0 to chat in a friendly and persuasive manner especially so as to gain favor, business, or connections. (Source: https:\/\/www.merriam-webster.com\/dictionary\/schmooze. Accessed 7.9.2017)<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>However, Dictionary.com has a more harsh definition:<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>To chat idly; gossip. (Source: http:\/\/www.dictionary.com\/browse\/schmooze. Accessed 7.9.2017)<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>While it&#8217;s great to have a chat with someone, and making connections is what Marketing and Development is all about, there&#8217;s a very negative connotation to the word.<\/p>\n<p>Think about the last time you walked into a home improvement store, and a person came up to you and asked, &#8220;Can I help you?&#8221;\u00a0 That&#8217;s about as casual as you can get, since &#8220;can&#8221; implies ability. The salesperson had better be able to help you.<\/p>\n<p>If they came up to you in a home improvement store and said, &#8220;Hey, that&#8217;s a great looking tie,&#8221; and then you start a conversation about clothing, that&#8217;s very casual conversation, but it&#8217;s not purposeful.\u00a0 If the conversation continued, you might start thinking, &#8216;What&#8217;s this person getting at?\u00a0 I don&#8217;t want to talk about clothing.\u00a0 I need to get a pair of work gloves and get back home.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Not if someone walks up to and says, &#8220;You look like you&#8217;re looking for something.\u00a0 May I help you find something you&#8217;re looking for?&#8221; and then happily escorts you to where those work gloves can be found, there&#8217;s the start of a relationship.\u00a0 You might even ask for that person&#8217;s name, and make a comment about them on social media.<\/p>\n<p>This example provides the &#8220;tone&#8221; of the dialogue that must happen in your school to engage parents of prospective students.\u00a0 In fact, &#8220;tone&#8221; is something that&#8217;s rarely discussed when examining communications, because it is the &#8220;how&#8221; of messaging, and the &#8220;how&#8221; connects the &#8220;what&#8221; and &#8220;why.&#8221;\u00a0 Interestingly, more emphasis is ALWAYS placed on the non-verbal aspect of communication than on the &#8220;verbalized&#8221; essence of the message.\u00a0 For more about the importance of this part of communication, send an email to <a href=\"mailto:schooladvancement@gmail.com\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">schooladvancement@gmail.com<\/a> with the words &#8220;The How of the Message&#8221; in the subject line.<\/p>\n<p>Bottom line: If a parent of a prospective student comes to the school, and is met with a &#8220;Can I help you?&#8221; greeting, how different is that from every other school that they&#8217;re investigating?<\/p>\n<p>\u00a9 Michael V. 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